When we accept the beauty and vast divinity of each moment (whether blissful or painful) and are even grateful for it, we find peace and we stop the futile resistance to “what is” that brings so much suffering.But wait. There is one slight problem I am seeing about tripping balls on “presence” all the time. That it can also become a type of spiritual bypass. People I see who are continually blissing out on the divinity of presence seem to be doing so to the exclusion of their own growth or evolution. Like this: if everything is perfect, then I have no reason to change or be better at being me, I’ll just get drunk on presence and the idea that everything is perfect and then I’ll never have to face the real work of looking at myself, acknowledge my unmet needs or the ways I’m selling myself short, not showing up for myself, getting vulnerable or not being true to who I am….whatever that looks like. Bottom line is we all have things we need to look at with a type of objective honesty.
We get stuck or blocked when we aren’t in the flow of nature – when we resist and stunt ourselves – not growing, evolving, becoming a better version of our being-ness, but rather settling in and taking constant hits off the big fat presence doobie that’s sold so much in present-day spirituality.
And while I don’t think I’ve got it completely figured out yet, I’ve come to see that present moment awareness is a beautiful understanding, however, just as the tree, or even a humble blade of grass, or even the snake is fully present in each moment, they are also constantly changing, letting go of leaves, growing new branches, turning brown in winter, shedding skin. And so presence then is like a beautifully engraved invitation from life, nature, divinity – whichever you subscribe to – not only for allowing and surrendering to what is, but for our growth. Because I believe, hidden within each perfect moment is an incredible opportunity – the opportunity to be a better version than we were yesterday. A better friend, a better parent, a better partner and most importantly better at loving ourselves and showing up for ourselves – meeting our own needs.
Pema Chodron says it beautifully…
“To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest. To live fully is to be always in no-man’s-land, to experience each moment as completely new and fresh. To live is to be willing to die over and over again. ”
So enjoy that hit of presence, feel it wash over you but don’t let it lull you into a sleepy dream of stagnancy. Die a thousand times so you can be reborn a thousand more.